Comments on: as a straight male should i give lesbians relationship advice?

By: Marian

Marian — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 09:02:59 +0000

yeah sure you can,if it is wise and thoughtful and sagelike.not the kind of advice perhaps a porn director would extoll.all human relations depend on the dynamics of domination and submission,even lesbians and so at least one partner will have acquired a quasi masculine identity emulating the trad aspects of a typical hetero relation
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By: tammynashton

tammynashton — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:56:59 +0000

OK So I see that you have many answers here I just thought i would put my 2 cents in here. I am a lesbian and I have many straight male and female friends. If I ask advice its because I want it. Just because i am with a woman does NOT mean I hate men. I have 3 boys. I was in a bad relationship with a man for 8 years. My sexuality doesn’t change who I am and what I want out of life it Just means I am in love with a woman. I sleep with a woman but that doesn’t change me as a human being. Domestic violence is wrong no matter who does the hitting! Tell them that. It doesn’t matter why they resort to physical or emotional violence. What matters is that it needs to stop. You have perspective if you are their friend. You don’t have to put your self in their shoes you have to think like a human! How hard is that? I know that for some people its hard to understand same sex relationships but its basically the same as what most people call a "normal relationship" They love each other, they take care of each other. I have only been with one woman and I love her. We have been together almost a year. The only thing different in our relationship from my past relationships is the sex is done differently. But the over all is the same.Love is Love. it doesn’t matter with who as long as both partys involved are happy, with who they are and with how the world looks at them. I have lost many friends because I have supposedly changed. I didn’t change as a person I changed who I was sleeping with. You just be the friend to her that you want her to be to you. Give her advice be her shoulder when she needs it. Be yourself don’t be scared because you think shes different. Shes the same as anyone else in a bad relationship.
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By: Cath

Cath — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:49:59 +0000

If advice is asked for
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By: kate lomax

kate lomax — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:40:59 +0000

Rather a controversial question Louis. Think you answered it yourself in your additional comments.
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By: jess b

jess b — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 07:52:59 +0000

Of course you can offer your view. There may be elements of the relationship that you can't relate to, but essentially it is about two people in love. Every relationship has unique elements that affect their interactions; single parents and step-families, highly religious couples, long-distance relationships. All these factors will affect the advice that would be relevant to them, but if they are open-minded and close friends of yours, then they would be able to discard the irrelevant information and use the important stuff.
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By: ericabishop691

ericabishop691 — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 07:06:59 +0000

can u understand the challenges??? i don't think so. If men were more like lesbians, maybe more marriages would work. If men thought like women, maybe we women would be able to tolerate the differences in men.
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By: Parallax

Parallax — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:52:59 +0000

You'd be wasting your time. Lesbians dislike men, and are jealous of them. They want nothing to do with straight men.
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By: angelac4531

angelac4531 — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:22:59 +0000

I think if someone asked your advice on something as personal as a relationship, they must trust you and hold your opinion in high regard otherwise they wouldn't have come to you. As in any situation, be honest, be kind, and be sensitive to the other person's feelings and how they might receive your advice. I really don't think it has anything to do with gender or sexual orientation. It's more about people and emotions.
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By: LARRY J7

LARRY J7 — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 05:58:59 +0000

Yo Louis
Only One word of advice here—- go very slowly in this matter !!
Ever heard the old addage — Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (??) —- Try the fury of TWO women scorned !!
Deep and full of turmoil, bro !! Go slow, here !!
It is the best of chances in this matter that neither of them are going to give a damn about your opinion anyway — you’re "one of THEM" !! And, in that — certainly — without a single CLUE !!
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By: itisfutile

itisfutile — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 05:21:59 +0000

Why not you have gay lesbian feminists trying to tell how marriage should operate and how men should act. Take a little give a little.
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